improving communication
by Antonia Reaves
"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."--Tony Robbins
We now have a variety electronic tools for enhancing the speed with which we communicate to each other. I, for one, am profoundly grateful that I can skype with loved ones who live too far away for me to visit regularly. Yet, no device, no matter how advanced has the capacity to improve our understanding of one another or promote greater harmony in our relationships with others.
I have discovered the most effective way for me to improve my communication is using metaphysical techniques that employ the high vibration of Gold for transmuting any lower vibrating energies. I have described these processes below.
PROCESS A: CLEANING OUT THE STATIC IN COMMUNICATION
Similar to how we sometimes experience electrical interference affecting our electronic communication, energetic static can create difficulty in either you clearly understanding someone else or them understanding you.
This first process, therefore, can be used on a regular basis as a way for cleansing and clearing the communication between yourself and another person or even a group of people. Use this method with people you know at work, your neighbors, and other people with whom you interact.
Imagine out in front of you, between you and someone with whom you are talking, is a transparent wall of Golden Light. Make this wall the size and shape to cover the space between the two of you adequately. Mentally ask this wall of Golden Light to transmute any communication coming from you to the other person or from the other person to you into vibrations that would be of most benefit to you and to the other person.
As soon as you make this request, this wall will now begin transforming the energies flowing between the two of you into the highest, purest vibrations possible that both of you can receive. After 5 to 10 minutes of visualizing your golden wall, notice if you start to enjoy the conversation more or if it's just easier being in this person's presence.
Because it is sometimes difficult to remember to visualize your golden wall in the moment, you can imagine it ahead of time. Simply imagine a future encounter and see yourself and the other person communicating with your golden wall between you. Keep this visualization active for several minutes, allowing yourself to also imagine the feelings of being heard, of feeling understood and appreciated for your communication.
You can even use your golden wall to transform past conversations so that you don't keep arguing with that person in your head. Recall your last interaction and replay the experience, imagining your golden wall going to work, transmuting all the energies that went between the two of you, from the beginning of the encounter to the end of it.
For a group of people, such as in a meeting or a more informal, social gathering, a golden bubble that completely surrounds you tends to work better. Again, you can program your bubble ahead of time to make it easier to remember to use it during the event. You can also clean up past communication in a group setting using your golden bubble by using the same method described in the above paragraph.
PROCESS B: TRANSFORMING UNRESOLVED COMMUNICATION
When you have something you feel you really need to communicate but do not feel comfortable doing so, I recommend using this second process. I have used this process consistently over the years to resolve sticky situations at work, enhance the level of trust between myself and those I care about, and as a way to simply release the intensity of my feelings and regain emotional balance.
Step One: Decide What You Want To Communicate
I recommend writing out exactly what it is you want to communicate and to whom for the first several times practicing this process. After you become comfortable with the entire process, feel free to skip this step. I find that even now, though, if I am having difficulty really getting clear about what I want to say, I spend some time writing it out.
Reduce what you want to say to one or two sentences that are as simply constructed as possible. Avoid telling a whole story, since that only serves to move your energy into justifying feeling how you are feeling.
One way to keep the communication as simple as possible is to say something like:
"When ______ happens, I feel _______."
Then state what your preference would be with a statement such as:
"It would be really nice if you could__________."
Step Two: Connect with the Higher Aspects of Yourself
Close your eyes and take several deep breaths. Then, however you can imagine it, create a channel of Golden Light going from the top of your head straight on up into the higher dimensional planes of reality where the Higher Aspects of yourself can be found. These Higher Aspects are the part of you that has infinite wisdom, knowledge, and clarity.
I generally experience some sense that I have connected with these higher aspects of me. For me, it is a feeling of more Light coming into my mind that always feels really good.
Step Three: Transmit Communication To Your Higher Aspects
Focus on what it is you want to communicate to this other person and imagine that communication flowing out of the top of your head and into the channel of Golden Light established between you and the HIgher Aspects of you. As this communication proceeds along, the Golden Light is automatically raising the vibration of what you want to say to its highest expression.
When you get a since that your Higher Aspects have received that communication, ask the Higher Aspects of you to please communicate that to the Higher Aspects of the other person. Send also a message of gratitude and appreciation to both your Higher Aspects and that of the other person.
Depending upon the circumstances, you may also want to ask your Higher Aspects to check with the Higher Aspects of the other person to see if there is anything you can do that would help either the situation or the person in some way.
Followup
After completing this process, pay attention to any changes both in how you are feeling and in your communication with this other person. Often, I feel a relief just in having expressed something that was important to me. Many times, I find I am able to detach from the situation in a way that I wasn't before doing this process.
If no changes at all occur, repeat the process, paying particular attention to seeing if what you want to communicate has changed.
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Copyright 2013 Antonia Reaves